You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with
Thanks so much for signing up for my newsletter!
I’m so excited you’ve decided to come on this journey with me
This week I wanna talk to you about something so fundamental
That without it
Reaching all your other goals is always gonna seem like an uphill battle
It’s about the importance of environment
And why your environment is the single biggest predictor of your outcomes
I’m sure you’ve heard the expression
“You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”
And if you really stop and look around
You’ll see how much truth there is to that statement
This is easy for most of us to grasp if we’re dealing with a truly unhealthy situation
Something that’s obviously toxic
Or even downright abusive
And it goes without saying that if you’re dealing with any of that
Whether it’s a romantic relationship
A family member - especially someone you live with
Or a friend that you have any sort of regular contact with
It’s going to affect the overall direction of your life
But what’s less obvious
Is when you’re dealing with people who may not be “toxic” in an obvious way
But you know deep down they’re still not good for you
This is especially going to be true for you if: You’ve done a fair amount of (personal development) work on yourselfYou’re sensitive to your environment (this is a good thing btw so don’t ever let anyone, including yourself, make you believe otherwise)You have really big dreams
You’ve done a fair amount of inner work:
If you’ve been on the healing path for a while, you’ve learned things about yourself that the people around you probably haven’t (aka - you’ve become more insightful about yourself and the people around you probably don’t have the same level of insight about themselves)
This isn’t about being better than anyone
It’s simply about accepting the fact that you will thrive more if you surround yourself with people who are on a similar path
You’re sensitive (aka you’re a ‘sensing’ person)
You’re attuned to your environment
You pick up on things - body language, people’s tone of voice, subtle changes in your surroundings - that others may not
This means your energy might be more easily affected than the people around you
Especially if you’re going through a tough time and less to ‘give’ to others strictly in terms of your energy
This will be even more true if you’re someone who aims to please others (I’ll say more on people-pleasing in a future post)
Being a deeply feeling person can sometimes make relating to the “normal” world feel like a challenge
You have big huge dreams
And finally, there’s the matter of purpose
Your dreams
Your vision
Your calling
Whether you know what that is yet or not
It doesn’t matter
You know that you have one
And you know that it’s big
If any of that describes you, there’s one thing I can tell you for certain:
Hanging out with people who don’t encourage - or even worse, who minimize - your dreams is gonna slow you WAY down
And the funny thing is, it won’t just slow you down is the area of your dreams
It’ll slow you down in all areas of your life
Because in this reality of ours, everything is connected
And unhappiness in one area of life (whether that’s your job, your relationship, your body or your money situation) will always spill into unhappiness in every other area too
So back to the importance of environment
Nothing will shift your life faster than letting go of people and situations that no longer serve you
Is this easy?
No
Is it necessary?
Yes
Of course, you can try and play it safe and do the whole
“Let me try and find new people to hang out with before I let go of the circle I’m in now”
But again, it’s slower going
And it also lends itself to the question
“What am I so afraid of?”
Well the answer to that will be found in next week’s newsletter
But I’ll give you a hint
It has to do with fear, ancestral programming, and the unknown
Until then, I love you
And remember, joy is your natural state
It’s time to remember
To our collective growth,
Tara x
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Tara x