How Bad Behavior Translates in a Relationship
The way a man
Treats a perfect stranger
Should matter to you
And it should matter a lot
I know a lot of women
Don’t wanna believe it
I know a lot of women
Are enamored with bad boys
— this applies to men being
enamored with bad(ass) women
as well, but we’re gonna focus
on the men in this post —
The reason for this
Is that “bad” people
Appear confident on the surface
And confidence is very attractive
But if that so-called confidence
Spills into a condescending tone
With that Lyft driver
Or turns into
Casually rude behavior
With hotel staff
Or frequent complaints
About his ‘negative’ experiences
In the world at large
I would HIGHLY recommend
You sit up — and stay sitting up —
And take notice
Because the way a man
Treats other people
Is the way he will
Eventually
Treat you
Yes it will be just as bad
If not worse
Why worse?
Because you will be
Emotionally entangled
With him
And him
With you
So if he can treat a perfect stranger
So disrespectfully — someone who presumably
hasn’t done anything wrong to him, except
maybe fail to provide him with the level
of customer service which he not
only appreciates, but actually
feels entitled to —
Then what do you think he might be like
With someone he perceives
Has actually wronged him?!
If he is so easily thrown off
His emotional center
Simply because his meal
Wasn’t served hot enough
How forgiving and compassionate
Do you think he will be
With you
When you inevitably
Do something
That upsets him
And I’m not referring to
Any major betrayal
It could be something as simple
As not picking up the dry cleaning
That’s how “bad” men
And women
Are
So what can you do?
Have the willingness
To pay very close attention
To how you feel in this person‘s presence
Especially when he’s interacting
With other people
If it makes you uncomfortable
There’s a reason
And there’s truly no need
To set yourself up
For unnecessary pain
No level of physical attraction
Is going to make up
For this kind of issue
In your relationship
There are plenty
Of confident men and women
In the world
Who you will be
Just as attracted to
And if you only find yourself
Attracted to these kind of people
That’s a separate issue
Bu one worth looking at
I’m speaking as someone
Who’s lived it
It doesn’t matter
How nicely that person
Is treating you right now
It doesn’t matter
How far into the relationship
You are
t doesn’t matter
If they have managed
To make you believe
That you are different
It doesn’t matter
What your mind
Is currently telling you
You have to take
A person’s total behavior
Into consideration
And lastly
If you have tricked yourself
Into believing that this person
Simply has high standards
— because after all, there’s no reason
to accept bad service, or eat a meal
that isn’t up to par, right? — just consider this:
Not only is it possible
To have high standards
Without treating people badly
But people with TRULY high standards
Also have standards for themselves
And for their own behavior as well
Not just the behavior of others
If someone is willing
To be rude or disrespectful to anyone
There is no reason under the sun
To believe that behavior won’t one day turn on you
To our collective growth,
Tara x
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