How To Rewire Your Experience
Dear Friend,
The human mind
Is wired for story
Once you understand that
It will become very clear
That one of the best ways
To up-level your life
Is to tell your mind a story
That you actually want
To experience
Stories are how
We make sense
Of the world
Around us
The problem is
That most of the stories
We tell ourselves
Don’t actually serve us
Not only that
But most of the stories
We tell ourselves
Aren’t even true
They usually come from
Experiences we had
Early on in our childhoods
But they might also come
From traumatic experiences
We had as adults
Beyond that
Our stories come from
The collective field
Of human programming
Which is always telling us
— in one way or another —
That we are not whole
And complete
As we are
Some of the most common stories
That people have running
In their field are:
I’m not enough
My feelings don’t matter
I’ll never be successful
I’ll never find true love
Other more specific examples
Might include:
I’m not smart enough
I have a learning disorder
And that’s why I’ll never be successful
I was abused as a child
So there must be something
Wrong with me
The most important takeaway
From all of this
Is for you to know
That you are not
The thoughts you think
And you are not even
The emotions you feel
Although these things
Drastically shape your experience
They are not who you are
The second most important
Takeaway
Is for you to know
That you are fully capable
Of re-writing your story
With practice
Consistency
And a hefty dose
Of self-compassion
You can — over time — create
A new reality for yourself
Here is a 5 step process
I share with my clients
When they feel stuck
In a story or pattern
That doesn’t serve them
BECOME AWARE OF THE STORY
Whenever you’re experiencing
An unpleasant emotion
It’s super important
To ask yourself:
“What’s the story I’m telling
myself right now?”
And the second question
Is always gonna be
“Does this story I’m telling
myself serve me?”
LET YOURSELF OFF THE HOOK
This is SO important
It means I forgive myself
For not knowing before
What I know now
Without this element
Of self-forgiveness
We run the risk
Of living
In a perpetual loop
NURTURE THE INNER CHILD
Be kind to yourself
When you feel ‘less than’
When you feel scared
When you feel like
You might never ‘get it right’
Be willing to see the scared
Little boy or girl
Inside
Who doesn’t yet know
How to navigate the world
Acknowledge that the inner child
Is still alive and well in all of us
And simply needs the love
That she or he didn’t get early on
Beating ourselves up
Is not a strategy for success
LEARN TO HOLD THINGS LIGHTLY
See your thoughts and emotions
As clouds passing through the sky
In other words
Don’t make too much of them
This is about the practice
Of non-attachment
Regular meditation
Can help you learn
To calm your mind
And this will help you
Learn to hold things
More lightly
Walks in nature
Are my personal favorite
Form of meditation
GET CLEAR ON THE COST OF YOUR CURRENT STORY
It’s always important
To ask ourselves
What price we’re paying
For any thought, behavior
Or activity we’re taking part in
So the question here would be:
“What is the price I’m paying
for this story?”
And then ask yourself
If the price is worth it
For example
If you have a story
That you’re not smart enough
The cost you might be paying
Is that you never take risks
Or never step outside your
Comfort zone
The price of this story
Is pretty self-evident
As you probably miss out
On a fair share of life experiences
By holding onto this story
WHAT STORY DO I CHOOSE TO TELL INSTEAD
And last but not least
You have to ask yourself
What story you would rather
Be experiencing
The important thing is
You’ll want to make it
Feel true
When it comes to creating
Or manifesting anything
It’s super important
That your subconscious mind
Be able to ‘buy into’
The new story
You’re trying to ‘sell it’
More specifically
This means using soft statements
When big statements feel
A bit too out of reach
For example
If you find yourself
Surrounded by really talented
And high level people
You might notice
A sense of self-doubt
Coming up
But instead of “I’m not good enough”
Or “I’ll never measure up”
You can simply say
To yourself “I notice that
this is an old story”
Anytime you get stuck
Go over this list
And see where
Your personal
Stumbling block might be
Some people have
An easy time
Telling themselves
A new story
But they have a hard time
When they fall into Shame
So if that’s you
You’ll want to pay
Particular attention to
Step 1: Letting Yourself Off The Hook
Be kind to yourself
But be consistent in your practice
Everything in this life
Carries with it
A specific muscle memory
So the more you do it
The better and easier it becomes
Joy is your natural state
It’s time for you to remember
To our collective growth,
Tara x
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