Why are we so afraid of the emptiness?
This post is picking up where last week’s newsletter piece left off
If you missed it
You can catch it here
So the question we left off with was
Why are we so afraid of the emptiness
Why does even the word emptiness
Bring about such a feeling of gloom
And sometimes even shame for so many of us
Ironically, I’ve noticed this to be even more common
Among the more awakened, progressive and spiritual circles
Where people intellectually understand so much
Yet are far from immune to the highs and lows
That often accompany walking this road less traveled
So the first question is why?
Why the fear?
Why do we prefer to hold onto what doesn’t serve us
Instead of creating space to allow what does (serve us) to come through
Well for starters, we’ve been conditioned to believe that emptiness is “bad”
We’ve been conditioned to believe that if we’re not busy
Or happy - like we imagine everyone else to be
Or in a constant state of euphoria - again, like we imagine everyone else to be
Then something must be wrong with us
We fear the emptiness because in the emptiness we have to meet ourselves
Often for the first time
We have to sit with emotions that can be extremely uncomfortable
But that’s not all of it
The reason we often feel the fear so acutely
Is because of our identification with the emotions we experience
We take our emotions on as facts
We literally believe that we ARE the emotion we’re experiencing
Given how many emotions we can experience in any given day
Is it any wonder then
That how we feel about ourselves is so inconsistent
So unpredictable
I’ll let you in on a not-so-little secret
You are not your emotions
And yet your emotions matter immensely
Because they are a sort of guidance system
A compass if you will
However, until you make friends with your emotions
Until you allow each and every one of them a seat at the dinner table
They will continue to rule your life
And you will continue to play hide and seek with your potential
Because your fear of what’s going on inside of you will keep you stuck
The other reason we are afraid of the unknown
Is because we are wired to be afraid of anything we don’t understand
I can’t overemphasize this point enough
This is why positive thinking will only ever get you so far
The Truth - the deeper Truth that many so-called teachers don’t want to speak
Either because they don’t know it themselves
Or because it doesn’t “sell” as well
Is that the only way out is through
It is always through
So how do we begin to do this?
3 components to consider:
Your Environment: I spoke about this last week so go here to read my thoughts
Your Inner Dialogue: How do you talk to yourself?
What is the story you tell yourself about who you are?
What is the story you tell yourself about who other people are?
What is the story you tell yourself about the world you live in?
Is it a safe place?
Is it a scary place?
Are people fundamentally good? Evil?
Are you hopeful about our potential as a humanity to rise in consciousness?
Or do you see doom and gloom everywhere you look?
And how is this story — this inner dialogue — working out for you?
What impact is it having on your life?
Your relationships?
Your income?
Can you see the correlation between your fear and how constricted your life feels?
In contrast
Can you see the correlation between your willingness to remain open-hearted (despite your fear) And how abundant your life feels?
• What You Feed Your Body: This is two-fold
It’s about what you actually consume in terms of food
So the questions to ask yourself would include:
Am I eating high-vibrational foods?
Am I consuming enough fruits and vegetables?
Am I drinking enough water?
Remember we are electric Beings and we are made up of 70% water
Am I still consuming animal flesh, eggs or liquids?
Now - before you decide to unsubscribe
I’d like to ask you to consider the following fact
Emotions are stored in our cells
This is true for humans, of course, but it’s also true for animals
And the truth about what happens when an animal is sent to slaughter
Even if his or her life up until that moment has been relatively good
Is that their entire system is taken over by Fear, Shock, Terror
Emotions which are then stored and locked into their cells
And transferred to your cells the moment you consume them
This is something your mind will try to reject
But your Soul will immediately recognize the Truth of it
So if you’re a relatively connected person, you’ve already got it
So I’ll leave that there for now
The second piece of this is about what you feed your body
By way of what you consume mentally and emotionally
See #1 on Your Environment for the physical/people part of this
But also consider the non-tangible stuff you consume
Here, the questions to ask yourself would include:
What kind of pages do I follow on social media?
What other sorts of information do I consume?
How do I feel after spending 20 minutes on Instagram of Facebook?
Am I looking at content that leaves me feeling tired? Uninspired? Or less than?
And am I willing to be more intentional about what I allow to penetrate my mind?
Am I willing to unfollow pages that make me feel bad about myself?
Without the need to justify it to myself or anyone else?
If you commit to becoming more mindful about these 3 things
Your environment
Your inner dialogue
What you feed your body
You will begin to have a more clear vessel
And you will without a doubt begin to raise your vibration
These things
Especially when combined
Will do more to help you clear out fear
Than all the self-help books in the world combined
Why?
Well for starters because they’re action-oriented
And one of the biggest ‘blocks’ to changing our reality
Is the willingness to make different choices
And take different actions
But also because taking these steps will help to ground you deeper
Into the Truth of who you really are
When you hang out with toxic people
Think toxic thoughts
And eat toxic food
The results you get will closely mimic
those states of being
So wouldn’t it make total sense then
That when you clear out negatively
Start observing your emotions instead of identifying AS your emotions
And start eating more live, high-vibe foods (aka not consuming death)
And increasing your water intake even by one glass of water per day
That your results will closely mimic
This new state of being?
The kicker is you actually have to DO the new thing
Take the action
Make the effort
Don’t wait for the motivation
Understand that the motivation comes in the doing
It FOLLOWS the actions
It doesn’t come before it
Yes you ARE capable
You CAN do it
And yes it really DOES matter that you do
Humanity is waiting on you
On all of us
To rise
To our collective growth,
Tara x
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