Knowing Yourself

How to dig deeper on your emotions

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So here’s the thing

The ACTUAL thing

That’s holding you back

From creating the life

And the impact 

You really desire

The thing is

You’re still watering down

Who you really are

What you REALLY feel

What you actually believe

And the message

You were truly born

To share with the world

And that is both

A good and bad thing

Of course it’s not actually 

A bad thing

But it probably does pose

A bit of a challenge 

Reason being

That almost all people

— to one degree or another — 

Are afraid to be ALL OF

Who they really are

And the main reason 

For that

Is because 

Most people

Care more about

What other people

Think about them

Than what they actually think

About themselves

So the challenge 

Then becomes

How to care LESS 

About the opinion of others

And MORE about the opinion 

Of Yourself 

And the only way to do this

Is to actually get to know yourself 

On a deeper level

One of the best ways 

To do this

Is to keep a journal

And take notes

On how you feel

Throughout your day

Specifically

You’ll want to pay attention

To the relationship between 

Any strong emotions that come up

And the events, people, and situations

That trigger those emotions

An example of how to do this:

Let’s say

I walk into the house

My partner is working on something

And — because he’s so into

whatever he’s working on —

He doesn’t say hello to me

Right away

His delay

Triggers 

A feeling of anger

In me

But when I dig deeper

The anger is really a mask

Covering up the fact that I’m hurt

Maybe I feel unappreciated

Or unimportant

Perhaps I had some exciting 

News to share

Making my partner’s 

Seeming indifference 

Even more frustrating

But let’s say my anger/hurt

Doesn’t go away 

When he actually stops what he’s doing

And comes over to say hello to me

Let’s take it one step further

And say that I actually tell him

How it made me feel when he didn’t 

Acknowledge me right away

Let’s say he actually apologizes

And is totally sincere in his apology

But I can feel the hurt

Still swirling around

Inside me

Then I dig a little deeper

And realize that the reason 

I still feel hurt

Is because this incident

Triggered a childhood memory

Of how I often felt unacknowledged

By the people/adults around me

This is just one example 

How how to dig deeper 

On your own emotional process 

And it’s critical to do so

Because the path to self-love

Comes through self-knowledge 

Until you get to know yourself

More deeply

You will be tempted 

To blame others

And to externalize

Your emotions 

Onto them

But your emotions

Always belong to you

Even when they are triggered

By others

And then of course the good news

Is that once you get to know yourself

And love yourself for ALL OF 

Who you are

It will become

Much less important

To you

What others think

And from that place

You will be able 

To create true magic

In the world

By being all of who

You came here to be

Joy is your natural state

It’s time for you to remember

To our collective growth,

Tara 

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Why are we so afraid of the emptiness?

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This post is picking up where last week’s newsletter piece left off
If you missed it
You can catch it  here


So the question we left off with was
Why are we so afraid of the emptiness 
Why does even the word emptiness 
Bring about such a feeling of gloom 
And sometimes even shame for so many of us


Ironically, I’ve noticed this to be even more common
Among the more awakened, progressive and spiritual circles
Where people intellectually understand so much 
Yet are far from immune to the highs and lows
That often accompany walking this road less traveled


So the first question is why?
Why the fear?
Why do we prefer to hold onto what doesn’t serve us
Instead of creating space to allow what does (serve us) to come through


Well for starters, we’ve been conditioned to believe that emptiness is “bad”
We’ve been conditioned to believe that if we’re not busy
Or happy - like we imagine everyone else to be
Or in a constant state of euphoria - again, like we imagine everyone else to be

Then something must be wrong with us


We fear the emptiness because in the emptiness we have to meet ourselves
Often for the first time 
We have to sit with emotions that can be extremely uncomfortable 
But that’s not all of it


The reason we often feel the fear so acutely
Is because of our identification with the emotions we experience
We take our emotions on as facts
We literally believe that we ARE the emotion we’re experiencing 


Given how many emotions we can experience in any given day
Is it any wonder then 
That how we feel about ourselves is so inconsistent 
So unpredictable 


I’ll let you in on a not-so-little secret
You are not your emotions 
And yet your emotions matter immensely 
Because they are a sort of guidance system 
A compass if you will


However, until you make friends with your emotions
Until you allow each and every one of them a seat at the dinner table
They will continue to rule your life
And you will continue to play hide and seek with your potential
Because your fear of what’s going on inside of you will keep you stuck


The other reason we are afraid of the unknown 
Is because we are wired to be afraid of anything we don’t understand 
I can’t overemphasize this point enough 
This is why positive thinking will only ever get you so far


The Truth - the deeper Truth that many so-called teachers don’t want to speak
Either because they don’t know it themselves
Or because it doesn’t “sell” as well
Is that the only way out is through 


It is always through


So how do we begin to do this?


3 components to consider: 

• 
Your Environment: I spoke about this last week so go here to read my thoughts
   

• Your Inner Dialogue: How do you talk to yourself? 

What is the story you tell yourself about who you are? 
What is the story you tell yourself about who other people are? 
What is the story you tell yourself about the world you live in? 
Is it a safe place? 
Is it a scary place? 
Are people fundamentally good? Evil? 
Are you hopeful about our potential as a humanity to rise in consciousness? 
Or do you see doom and gloom everywhere you look? 
 
And how is this story — this inner dialogue — working out for you? 
What impact is it having on your life? 
Your relationships? 
Your income? 
Can you see the correlation between your fear and how constricted your life feels? 

In contrast 
Can you see the correlation between your willingness to remain open-hearted (despite your fear) And how abundant your life feels?



    •    What You Feed Your Body: This is two-fold

It’s about what you actually consume in terms of food
So the questions to ask yourself would include: 
Am I eating high-vibrational foods?
Am I consuming enough fruits and vegetables? 
Am I drinking enough water? 
Remember we are electric Beings and we are made up of 70% water
Am I still consuming animal flesh, eggs or liquids? 
Now - before you decide to unsubscribe
I’d like to ask you to consider the following fact
Emotions are stored in our cells
This is true for humans, of course, but it’s also true for animals
And the truth about what happens when an animal is sent to slaughter
Even if his or her life up until that moment has been relatively good 
Is that their entire system is taken over by Fear, Shock, Terror 
Emotions which are then stored and locked into their cells
And transferred to your cells the moment you consume them
This is something your mind will try to reject
But your Soul will immediately recognize the Truth of it
So if you’re a relatively connected person, you’ve already got it
So I’ll leave that there for now
The second piece of this is about what you feed your body 
By way of what you consume mentally and emotionally
See #1 on Your Environment for the physical/people part of this
But also consider the non-tangible stuff you consume
Here, the questions to ask yourself would include:
What kind of pages do I follow on social media? 
What other sorts of information do I consume? 
How do I feel after spending 20 minutes on Instagram of Facebook? 
Am I looking at content that leaves me feeling tired? Uninspired? Or less than? 
And am I willing to be more intentional about what I allow to penetrate my mind? 
Am I willing to unfollow pages that make me feel bad about myself? 
Without the need to justify it to myself or anyone else?


If you commit to becoming more mindful about these 3 things
Your environment
Your inner dialogue 
What you feed your body
You will begin to have a more clear vessel
And you will without a doubt begin to raise your vibration


These things
Especially when combined
Will do more to help you clear out fear
Than all the self-help books in the world combined  


Why? 
Well for starters because they’re action-oriented 
And one of the biggest ‘blocks’ to changing our reality 
Is the willingness to make different choices 
And take different actions
But also because taking these steps will help to ground you deeper 
Into the Truth of who you really are


When you hang out with toxic people
Think toxic thoughts
And eat toxic food
The results you get will closely mimic
 those states of being


So wouldn’t it make total sense then
That when you clear out negatively 
Start observing your emotions instead of identifying AS your emotions 
And start eating more live, high-vibe foods (aka not consuming death)
And increasing your water intake even by one glass of water per day
That your results will closely mimic 
This new state of being?


The kicker is you actually have to DO the new thing 
Take the action
Make the effort
Don’t wait for the motivation 
Understand that the motivation comes in the doing
It FOLLOWS the actions
It doesn’t come before it


Yes you ARE capable
You CAN do it
And yes it really DOES matter that you do


Humanity is waiting on you 
On all of us
To rise 


To our collective growth,
Tara x

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