Knowing Yourself

How to dig deeper on your emotions

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So here’s the thing

The ACTUAL thing

That’s holding you back

From creating the life

And the impact 

You really desire

The thing is

You’re still watering down

Who you really are

What you REALLY feel

What you actually believe

And the message

You were truly born

To share with the world

And that is both

A good and bad thing

Of course it’s not actually 

A bad thing

But it probably does pose

A bit of a challenge 

Reason being

That almost all people

— to one degree or another — 

Are afraid to be ALL OF

Who they really are

And the main reason 

For that

Is because 

Most people

Care more about

What other people

Think about them

Than what they actually think

About themselves

So the challenge 

Then becomes

How to care LESS 

About the opinion of others

And MORE about the opinion 

Of Yourself 

And the only way to do this

Is to actually get to know yourself 

On a deeper level

One of the best ways 

To do this

Is to keep a journal

And take notes

On how you feel

Throughout your day

Specifically

You’ll want to pay attention

To the relationship between 

Any strong emotions that come up

And the events, people, and situations

That trigger those emotions

An example of how to do this:

Let’s say

I walk into the house

My partner is working on something

And — because he’s so into

whatever he’s working on —

He doesn’t say hello to me

Right away

His delay

Triggers 

A feeling of anger

In me

But when I dig deeper

The anger is really a mask

Covering up the fact that I’m hurt

Maybe I feel unappreciated

Or unimportant

Perhaps I had some exciting 

News to share

Making my partner’s 

Seeming indifference 

Even more frustrating

But let’s say my anger/hurt

Doesn’t go away 

When he actually stops what he’s doing

And comes over to say hello to me

Let’s take it one step further

And say that I actually tell him

How it made me feel when he didn’t 

Acknowledge me right away

Let’s say he actually apologizes

And is totally sincere in his apology

But I can feel the hurt

Still swirling around

Inside me

Then I dig a little deeper

And realize that the reason 

I still feel hurt

Is because this incident

Triggered a childhood memory

Of how I often felt unacknowledged

By the people/adults around me

This is just one example 

How how to dig deeper 

On your own emotional process 

And it’s critical to do so

Because the path to self-love

Comes through self-knowledge 

Until you get to know yourself

More deeply

You will be tempted 

To blame others

And to externalize

Your emotions 

Onto them

But your emotions

Always belong to you

Even when they are triggered

By others

And then of course the good news

Is that once you get to know yourself

And love yourself for ALL OF 

Who you are

It will become

Much less important

To you

What others think

And from that place

You will be able 

To create true magic

In the world

By being all of who

You came here to be

Joy is your natural state

It’s time for you to remember

To our collective growth,

Tara 

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THE POWER OF CREATING THROUGH JOURNALING

ONCE YOU GET THAT CLARITY IS ESSENTIAL FOR MANIFESTATION, DOING THE DAILY INTERNAL WORK WILL RANK A WHOLE LOT HIGHER ON YOUR TO-DO LIST.

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The universe can’t give you what you want, if you’re not clear and specific about what it is you want.

So here are just a few of my infinite journaling prompts to get you started: ⭐️ How much personal influence do you believe you have over your goals/life? ⭐️ What would you like to be happening in your life right now, that isn’t? ⭐️ What does success look like to you? Be as specific as possible. If money is a part of this picture (and tbh, it is for all of us) get super specific about exactly how much money you want, and WHY you want it - as in list out all the things you would use this money on. Doing monthly expenses - both for things you have to pay for, as well as things you just want additional income for - ie travel, contribution to a sanctuary you love, etc - works best for most people. ⭐️ How will you know when you have arrived at the optimal place in your life? How will you FEEL? This is obviously ever-changing. So don’t worry about seeing further out than you can currently see. Just reach as far as you can and tap into the feeling of that. ⭐️ What activity are you currently engaging in, that if you STOPPED doing, would get you closer to your goals?

Spend some time.
Take actual pen to paper.
Yes it’s better than typing.
It’s actually toootally different in terms of your neural (brain) networks.

Most importantly, have fun with it! And let me know how you go or if you have questions. Happy creating :) So much love,
Tara x

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YOUR ANGER IS KILLING YOU

It's in the tone of your voice;
it's in the energy of your walk.

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It’s not so much your anger, but your denial about it - that’s really what’s strangling your relationship. I’m addressing women in this post but the same can be true with all genders of course.

Believe it or not, it’s never lost on a man when you’re angry, whether you actually admit to being angry or not.

And I say this with a heart full of love - your man can see through your fake smile; he can see past your niceties.

He can feel your impatience; he can hear your (silent) criticism.

It's in the tone of your voice; it's in the energy of your walk.

He sees right through the helpful “suggestions" – whether for what to wear or directions on how to get somewhere, when he didn’t ask!

And the only thing more upsetting to a man than seeing his woman unhappy, is when she doesn't respect the relationship enough to - without blaming him - actually let him know how she feels.

So what to do? Well if you've been disconnected from your anger for a long time (i.e. saying you're *not* angry, even when you feel a massive distance in your relationship), the first step is to simply stop doing THAT.

It's to stop pretending. It’s to stop saying "nothing" when he asks you what's wrong.

It's learning to STOP SAYING "I'm fine" when it's very clear that you're not fine. It's learning to start telling the truth - especially to yourself.

What if you don't know the truth?

It's OK to say "I'm not sure." It's OK to say "this doesn't feel good." It's OK to say "I'm confused and need some time to sort it out." It's OK to start by simply not denying your emotions.

Not only will it begin to bridge the distance in your relationship, it will begin to make YOU feel more whole - which will do more for your relationship than all the strategies and self-help books in the world combined.

To our collective growth,
Tara x

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Are you playing at the highest level possible?

IS THIS THE CALLING I TRULY SEEK?
IS THIS THE PERSON I WANT TO BE?
IS THIS THE PATH THAT SETS ME FREE?
DOES A DEEPER TRUTH STILL LIE BURIED IN ME?

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Are you playing at the highest level possible?
What version of yourself do you need to become in order to have everything you want?

What version of yourself has the business of your dreams?
The body and health of your dreams?
The relationship of your dreams? .

Who do you need to become to call these things in?
What does that version of you talk like, walk like, dress like?

How early does she wake up in the morning and what does she structure her days like?
What kind of foods does she eat?
How does she interact with people? How does she make people feel?

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How does she speak to her partner? How does she FEEL about her partner? Remember that everything on the outside is a reflection of the inside.
There is no separation. .
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In order to have what you want, you have to become the version of yourself that already has them.
If you were already that version now, you would already have everything you want. .
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That’s the golden rule in life.
We get what we are a vibrational match for.
If we don’t have it, it’s because we’re not a vibrational match yet.
And that’s not always a bad thing. .
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Especially when it comes to relationships.
If you’re not ready for the relationship of your dreams, it’s better that it not show up until you are ready.
The universe works in magical ways.
Be willing to ask.
Be willing to pray.
And have the humility and discipline to listen when the answers come through. .
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Because often they will be subtle.
At least initially.
Don’t always look for something to hit you across the head.
Pay attention. Ask. Clarify. Create.
And above all else, you have to believe and trust that everything you want is available to you. .
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To our collective growth,
Tara x

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JOURNEY INWARD — IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY…

STOP FOCUSING ON ANYONE BUT YOURSELF

1. If you don’t believe that thoughts become things, if you don’t believe that what you give your attention to grows, if you don’t believe that we are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe, then the rest of this post will not only be meaningless to you, but it will probably annoy you. To everyone else, since you’re already on board, you’re probably already practicing being more disciplined with your thoughts — that’s a great thing! Which brings me to my next point. .

2. You have to get out of the trap of believing that your happiness is based what somebody else is or isn’t doing. It’s not other people who make us unhappy. It’s our expectations of other people that makes us unhappy. It’s OUR judgment about THEM that makes us unhappy. As long as you are at the mercy of other people behaving in a certain way, you will feel like a prisoner in your own life. .

3. But this prison is self-created, just like reality itself. Because people are fickle. No human being behaves consistently and according to our desires 100% of the time. And that’s OK, because we don’t either! We are fickle, too. .

4. When we lose sight of the bigger picture, we become unhappy. So we have to remember why we came. We have to remind ourselves that we did not come here to judge other people. We came here to do our own internal work, which is also the best way we can then contribute to the work of humanity. The work is first inside, then outside. And this cycle never ends. Within You is where the answers will always be. .

5. Every attempt you make to deviate from this truth will result in pain. Not because the universe wants to see you suffer. On the contrary. The universe is so loving and self-correcting, that She will never stop doing her job. .

She will never stop giving us the experiences we need in order to evolve and grow. Ultimately we are here to expand in consciousness. And whether we choose to go with grace or whether we go kicking + screaming, we will continue to move towards that white light one way or another.

To our collective growth,

Tara x

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Two Myths About Relationships

Myth #1 Relationships can make you unhappy and cause you pain.

They can’t. They can only bring the pain that is already there to the surface, which in turn no doubt causes its own pain, but it’s not the original source.

Myth #2. Relationships can make you happy.

Myth #2. Relationships can make you happy. They can’t. They can only amplify the happiness that is already within you, which in turn also causes a new level of happiness between both of you. But if either person is lacking this basic level of peace and contentment on their own, this is super unlikely to happen.

What are your thoughts?!

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